In this story David shares something he was told which has stayed with him, and brought comfort.
We lost three babies, all very early on in the pregnancies, between our two sons being born. It was only when we had specialist tests done that we found my wife’s body was rejecting them, and that the simple treatment of a junior aspirin a day was all that was needed.
With that treatment, which was very new at the time, she carried our second son to full term. Early miscarriage was painful enough, so I cannot imagine how upsetting late or full term losses must be.
Our losses were partially eased by the advice a very spiritual person gave us. They told us that the spirit, or soul, chooses the baby and parents around the time of conception, knowing the length of time they will be spending in that physical body, and with a specific journey to make and particular lessons to learn, and to teach.
It knows not only whether the baby will miscarry in a matter of hours, or go on to live into its’ 90′s, but also that it can fulfill a part of its’ spiritual journey in that time scale-chosen. It chooses those parents, with a lesson for them to learn, as well as a lesson for it to learn for itself. I am not explaining it as well as they did, but I wanted to pass it on as it gave us some comfort knowing there was a purpose, and that it was the child’s choice, not something that was imposed upon it. It also helped us knowing they had chosen us as parents, and that the sadness was for a purpose: whether that was to draw us closer together, or to get more knowledgeable so we could help others, or whatever the reason was.